My dear friend "irl" (in real life) S @ Infertility Sucks! Has been through a LOT in her journey to be a mom. Like us, she and her husband have yet to actually achieve that goal.
Her latest post talks about dealing with life on a daily basis; her fourth holiday season with still no child, what her options were. I realized how similar we felt, and I wrote the following...
It IS a big, oozing, gaping wound that won't heal.
Time does help. Sean has a great idea - take some "you" time. Get away, stop the insanity, as that chick with the short white hair used to say.
And above all, don't make ANY decisions now, just be, and let the suckiness and joy of the holidays wash over you, and just get through them.
This Thanksgiving, Narda leans over to me and says, Yup, another one without a kid. It sucks to be us!
Yeah. It sucks to be us. There's NO taking that away.
But there are joyous and wonderful moments hiding in between the spaces of sadness. We just try to find more and more of them, and focus on that for now.
It DOES suck big time, and there's no denying that. This is our third holiday season where we are not parents. We thought it would be so easy. How wrong we were.
So we look for those moments between the sadness, and I thank all of you for being a part of those moments.
And for THAT, I am thankful.