OK - So we will probably have a phone conversation with the Birth Mother on Monday the 8th - our SW will let us know later today or Monday morning.
We'll meet her in person on Friday the 19th.
She is due August 28th, but may get induced, we're not sure as to the full part of that.
She picked us on our profile alone, and is being sent our photo album via fed-ex.
WWE NEED HELP WITH QUESTIONS!
I have NO idea what to say to her - our SW will of course, go over things with us, but some general questions weold be helpful.
The only real risk is her own desire to parent. Basically, the way NJ law works, is that the BM is not allowed to sign termination rights until 72 hours have elapsed after birth. But after she signs termination rights, that's it. it's final. We will pay to have the baby stay at the hospital for the extra day or two, as we would not want to bring her home, only to have the BM change her mind a day later. We'll try to be there for the birth, if the BM will allow it, and we'll have to stay in NJ while paperwork is being cleared - which would be for about 5 days or so.
The BM has a name that she has chosen, and we hope to be able to use it as a middle name. We had wanted to use my grandmother's name and Narda's mom's name, but time will tell, and who knows, after we;ve all had conversations, which way things will go.
So it all seems a go. We are still being reserved, but it's hard to when I have to e-mail my boss, the benefits offce and HR to ask questions and confirm FMLA, etc.