Thursday, November 29, 2007
I just had to share that.
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
She's going in on Sunday, and I may not see her for a week! GASP!
It's probably a timing thing.
I'll miss her while she's out...
Friday, November 23, 2007
As I spent MANY moments this past Thanksgiving cursing my cupboards and the LACK of spice organization, I'll be getting a set for myself!
Chanukah is early this year. December 5th - so it's not too early to shop!
Thursday, November 22, 2007
Union Square Farmer's Market. The day before Thanksgiving...
Originally uploaded by shellipsm
I give you this lovely shot of the Union Square Farmer's Market from yesterday. Because today? I'm POOPED. I baked 3 pies last night, and have been cooking since basically 3pm yesterday. I've JUST sat down. But thank goodness for Narda, as she's on Malka duty.
So enjoy the wine, the turkey, (or to-furkey), family and friends.
And if the family is a bit tough? Enjoy the wine. I know I will...
Monday, November 19, 2007
Thursday, November 15, 2007
AND.... I have a genuine, bonafide crafting playdate with Stephanie this Sunday, so I'll be able to get LOTS of my pieces cut.
So come along and join in, won't you?
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
More pictures at flickr - but the face shots, as always are friends and family only.
Her hair desperately needed it. And now we should gain a bit of our morning back, too!
Ready? Are you sitting down?
In 2002, we decided that the time was ripe to begin our journey towards "family." We had just purchased an apartment, and were firmly planting "roots." We had previously discussed having kids, and were glad that we were both on the same page. Narda had absolutely no desire to be the "uterus for rent," so it was up to me. In order to do so, however, I had to quit smoking. So I made my new years resolution for 2003 to quit smoking for good. Having read Alan Carr's The Easy Way to Stop Smoking, ($24.99), I chose a date. December 31st, 2002 would be my last cigarette. EVER.
And it was. (oooo, remind me to tell you about the evil Beyotch that I became for about 3 months afterwards, too!) EEK.
We then had to look at sperm, aka, "Man in a can," and we spent about $150.00 in signing up for profile viewing. Which kind of sucks, since we discovered that there's only about 20 African American Sperm Donors in America. Seriously.
Then we had to figure out what the heck we were doing - so back to the book store we go - Add on another $24.99 a few times for some good books - like - Taking Charge of your Fertility, The Essential Lesbian guide to conception and birth, etc. etc. etc.
The we found a GYN in NYC that would do IUI's for $150.00 per pop. Because you see, my insurance at the the time didn't believe that we "had been trying for a year already," as we don't have sperm at home, and they wanted 12 months of receipts of donor insems before they would agree to pay for IUI's. They wouldn't pay for sperm, or IVF, or drugs, but they would pay for IUI's. We also bought about 10 vials of Sperm, at $300 bucks a pop, plus $150.00 to ship, plus paid to store it in NYC (you know, for those last minute insems) at $400.00 per quarter. We also bought BOXES AND BOXES AND BOXES of OPK's at (oddly enough), $24.99 per box, and HPT's at, oh, anywhere from $6.00 to 12.00 per box. And then there was more sperm, at $285.00 per pop, shipping at $149.80, ultrasounds at $125.00 each, we moved our IUI's to the place that our sperm was stored, and they were awesome, and felt awful each time it didn't work. Plus, there were cabs to and from insem appointments, esp. when they were mid-work day, and those were about $12.00 each way. And then you add in all of the bottles of wine we went through on "home insem" days, and the sushi and beer for when it didn't work, and after about 16 cycles of donor sperm IUI's that didn't work, we average that we spent about $25,000 or more in total that never got me knocked up.
We spent less than $10,000 in adopting Malka. And she is the best thing that ever happened to us.
So even though NY State has an infertility mandate, insurance companies STILL have biases against lesbians and single women.
Write your congressperson, won't you? I did.
Monday, November 12, 2007
You know, as in “Malka DO!” I must remember to set my alarm even earlier these days, as we need 20 extra minutes just for Malka to put on her own fucking pants. If we even DAIN to do certain things for her now – like all of the important ones – brush her teeth, put on her pants, buckle her into her booster seat at the table, we are confronted with the worst tantrum known to man kind, because, you know, “makado!”
And the pure bliss and glee she exhibits when she DOES put the “aforementioned fucking pants” on properly? Priceless – you’ve NEVER seen another human being more proud.
So yeah, we just have to get up even earlier now. Because there will be battles of the wills when it will be "because I said so!" But for now? Letting her learn and be proud of that accomplishment is worth the extra 20 minutes on my alarm clock.
Thursday, November 08, 2007
I'm watching one now, in fact. One mom, 13 kids, 9 daily loads of laundry, 15 dinners prepared, and I'm kvetching about one sink of dishes.
I'll go skulk off in shame now.
And go do the dishes.
While I work on crafty project #37 this week! (I promise to post pictures of "the crafty" soon.)
Saturday, November 03, 2007
The first 7, (yes, that's seven) people to comment on this post will receive a gift in the mail - from me! The only glitch? YOU have to do the same (I think the current number is 5 people, but 7's been a "berry-berry-good-ta-me.")
So post away. And if I don't have your address? I'll e-mail you for it, so be sure I can track your e-mail when you post.
**OK - just a reminder, that if you anonymously (ie: no linkable blog link) signed up - and um, yes, Chris, that means YOU!) ;) this also means that I do not have your e-mail address, and if I do not have your e-mail address, I cannot write to you to ask you for your snail-mail address. And if I don't have your snail mail address? I can't send you stuffs!**